【暑期班】生活英语听说(2016暑期班) Unit 7
Learning about your feelings is a way to develop your emotional intelligence as well as an opportunity to learn more about you. It is sometimes tough to share your feelings with others. If you do not tell anyone that you're feeling sad, frustrated, worried or upset then it's just you and these bad feelings. If you keep feelings locked up inside, it can make you feel sick!
Before sharing with anyone figure out what feelings you have by making a list of your feelings in your head. Write it out on a piece of paper or drawing pictures. This can help you find what is really bothering you.
Your parents and close friends want to know if you have problems because they love you. They can't know the real you unless you let them into your world by opening up. If you don't want to talk with them find a trusted counselor who can help you talk about your problems or concerns. Talking about your feelings can be the first step towards getting it.
Once you know who you can talk with pick a time and a place to talk. If you feel shy about sharing your feelings, you don't have to share every feeling. Similarly, you don't have to solve every problem. After you talk with your friend or a counselor, you will almost always feel better. You are not all alone with your problems and worries. It doesn't mean your problems and worries will magically disappear, but at least someone else knows what's bothering you and you can help find solutions.
If sharing with others makes you feel uncomfortable, it is normal. The more you practice sharing your feelings, the more natural it will feel. You can also choose to listen to your friends' feelings. This may be challenging as you need to give your undivided attention. It does not work well if you read text messages while listening to your friend. Turn off the technology and maintain eye contact with your friend and listen to understand his or her feelings.
The rewards of opening up are profound. Sharing your innermost feelings and being accepted is a basic human need and can be incredibly healing.
Yang Huameng: Hey! How are you today?
Madison: I am feeling kind of nervous. I just had a test today. I think I might have failed.
Yang Huameng: Well. There is no use being anxious now. Nothing can be changed.
Madison: You are right. I probably should just forget about it and start studying for my next test but I am feeling pretty tired.
Graham: Hey, Fabian. Fancy seeing you here. So good to see you here.
Fabian: Yeah. I'd love to have some chat with friends when I'm happy. Yeah some of my friends and I, we often come here and we get to talk and talk and talk. Talk about good things that happened to us. Talk about not so good things that happened to us and I think that is a good way to deal with problems in life.
Graham: Yes. Definitely. I don't like to be home alone. I'd rather to go out and meet new people.
Fabian: Yes, that is right. And I think good friends are those who stay with you no matter what.
Jessica: Hi! What are you doing?
Liam: Just surfing the net. I am exhausted so I want to relax a little bit.
Jessica: So any news?
Liam: Actually yes. Do you remember Professor Wang?
Liam: Well, apparently she failed one of her students and he had only been absent four times.
Jessica: I am amazed. She is still one of the most popular teachers. I thought the students were scared of her.
Liam: I think a lot of students are scared of her but a lot really admire her too.
Jessica: Is she the only philosophy teacher?
Liam: Yes, she is.
Jessica: Oh, look! Good news for us!
Liam: What is that?
Jessica: It says that Professor Wang is going on a scholar exchange programme in September.
Liam: Brilliant! We reasons to be cheerful.
Jessica: But it also says that we have to take her course when she comes back in September.
Liam: The nightmare is just postponed.
Michael: Do you know my dad was very crossed yesterday? Do you want to know why?
Jessica: You failed your math test again?
Michael: Umm. It is not me. My mom lost her purse on her way back home. She was very upset all day.
Jessica: I’m sure everyone in your family was unhappy yesterday. When did she find out her bag was gone?
Michael: Oh. She went to the supermarket about five pm and when she was going to pay the stuffs, she found out she lost her bag.
Jessica: Did your mom report it to the police?
Joyce: Ok, guys. I am so happy every day ever since I came to this university. Everything is new to me I think, although I am a little bit homesick. I think I am pretty excited every day and I often Skype with my families and friends and I also made a lot of new friends here. Being with you guys is such a pleasure to me.
Julie: Well, actually I am more sensitive than her. I feel a lot of pressure here since everybody is very intelligent and hard-working and I am often very moody too. For example, I might feel very upset and frustrated after I get stuck on a bus, but also I might feel very excited and happy after watching a funny film. So it all depends.
Jason: People think I have peace off mind because I am calm and quiet. But I often hide my feelings of happiness and anger. Umm, I do this because I have been trained to be a gentleman. But you would be surprised if you watched me in a football game because I shout for every goal and I yell when my team does not do well.
Zheyu: Oh, really? So we should go to a football game together. I am eager to know what an angry Jason looks like. I feel I am happiest the way I am now. And there is nothing to worry about. If I work hard at school and the pressure of exam is my motivation to learn better.
Mike: How was your weekend?
Lily: It was great. We went to the countryside with my friends.
Mike: What did you do?
Lily: We played CS. It was really amazing.
Mike: Oh, I want to be there too.
Lily: You can come along next time. So what did you do?
Mike: Emm. Well, I went to play badminton with my friends this weekend. It was tiring but I had a lot of fun.
Lily: Take me along with you next time. I want to play too.
Mike: Sure. Oh, I have math next.
Lily: I've got English. So see you
Mike: See you.
Kirk: Today's been such a bad day for me.
Jennifer: Oh, no. Oh! Wow! What happened to your shirt? It's so dirty!
Kirk: Today at lunch someone spilled their drink on me. You know, I was in line to order food and it was almost my turn. But then some guy just cut in front of me. I wasn't going to say anything. But then he turned around bumped into me and spilled his Coke all over me.
Jennifer: Oh, no. That's really too bad for you.
Kirk: And you know the thing that made me most mad was that he just walked away without apologizing. I just wanted to stop and yell at him.
Jennifer: Oh, well, that wouldn't have been a good idea. Maybe he was just in a hurry. As the Brits say “Just keep calm and carry on”
Kirk: Well, the thing is, being in a hurry doesn't is no excuse for breaking the rules. Everyone is in a hurry. And if no one queues up and everything will be a mess.
Jennifer: That's absolutely fair. Well, it's really not worth your time being angry with those who break the rules. After all their misbehavior adds color to our lives.
Kirk: Yes. I guess you are right. But the problem is they also add color to my shirt.
Jennifer: Well, at least your shirt looks pretty now. So stop feeling angry and forget about it.
Katherine: Can you do me a favor? I really need your help right now.
Christine: What's wrong? You look worried.
Katherine: I have this presentation tomorrow, but I haven't analyzed the data yet.
Christine: Tomorrow? That is so soon.
Katherine: Yeah. I just… Can I rely on you for this? You are the coolest most creative friend of mine.
Christine: Kate, last time it took me all weekend to help you analyze the data. I am gonna be up all at night.
Katherine: But you're so good at analyzing data. I just need you to look over this and turn it into graphs.
Christine: Let me take a look at it. This is so much data.
Katherine: I know I just I really need your help for this.
Christine: Okay. Next time promise me you will come to me earlier.
Katherine: Yeah, I promise I will never ask you to do this again.
Christine: Okay. Let's get started!
Owen: So now that you have talked about your feelings and your mood. Could you share with us how would you control your bad feelings, such as loneliness, anxiety or anger?
Joyce: No problem. I think when I am homesick, I always get busy with other things, such as going to the library to calm myself down or jogging in the playground, so I won't let myself to be in a bad mood and I could always turn to other concerns. So that's a good way for me to release myself.
Julie: Well for me I often turn to friends for help because I don't know how to take my mind off the things and I often go to extremes. Well let me think of the best way of controlling our feelings. Well I think if something, well if something occurs, I think the best way is to talk to yourself, for example I would tell myself to calm down when I take an exam or participate in a competition. I think this kind of, well I think this self-direction is a very good way to control our feelings.
Jason: I am really different from both of them. When I was in high school and I was down or upset, I would find some really tough math or physics problems to do and I would work on them until I got really tired and then I would go to the dormitory and have a nice rest. When I woke up, all my problems were solved and I felt a lot better. Zheyu you should try this.
Zheyu: Oh! This way of controlling mood is very “Jason”. I also love to abuse my body but not abuse my mind. I often scream and shout in the playground and then jog for five kilometers until I am tired out. At that moment, I don't have any worries or unhappiness. Isn't it a simple and cruel way to get over of my stress?
Jason: Yeah. But you need to choose the proper time. You could really scare the kids on the playground if they are there.
Christine: Alright we've finished.
Katherine: This is excellent, Christine. How do you always finish so quickly?
Christine: I make a list. It's really important. I put down everything that I need to do and then I think about how much time it will take me to complete each task.
Katherine: But if you are so busy making lists, how do you ever get around to anything on the list.
Christine: I prioritize. It's really important.
Katherine: That is easier said than done.
Christine: That's true. But even the best plan if you don't follow through is pointless.
Katherine: That is true too. I do that every semester I make a plan with everything that I need to do on it, like practice oral English and do my exercises, but I give up on it so quickly.
Christine: You can do it. You need to commit. Leave some room on your schedule for flexibility and give yourself a break.
Katherine: Ah. It's just that I procrastinate so much. When I get the assignment I think it's not due for so long and I relax and then I don't feel any pressure until the day it is due.
Christine: That's the key. Hurry first and then relax.
Jennifer: Hi Cindy! Haven't seen you in ages. How are you?
Cindy: I am good. Wow, I haven't seen you around. I haven't seen you in weeks actually.
Jennifer: Well, I was in Hong Kong for a seminar.
Cindy: Oh Wow! That must have been a great experience. I've never been to Hong Kong. How was it?
Jennifer: It was absolutely phenomenal. Basically I learned well, played well and ate well. All around it was great. You on the other hand, look absolutely amazing. How has everything been?
Cindy: Err… Remember a few weeks ago when you showed me how to manage my time more efficiently. Well I made a detailed schedule for my daily routine and after following it for a few days. I have begun to work much more efficiently.
Jennifer: That is wonderful. Congrats you not being a procrastinator any-more.
Cindy: Yeah after getting better organized, I found that I actually have a lot of free time so I started doing Zumba.
Jennifer: Oh Zumba is great. It's really good for relaxing.
Cindy: Yeah every time after I finish Zumba classes, I sleep better, feel better and I work more efficiently.
Jennifer: You know what. Can I come to your Zumba class later? I'd like to experience it.
Cindy: Yeah definitely.
Cindy: How do you feel now?
Jennifer: Oh that was such a great workout. Although my muscles do feel a bit stretched and overstrained.
Cindy: Oh. Don't worry. It will be a bit sore at the beginning, but after a while, you'll definitely get used to it.
Jennifer: Well you see I wasn't very busy when I was studying in Hong Kong. So I managed to actually do quite a lot of exercising, but not a lot since then.
Cindy: Oh so what sort of exercises did you do in Hong Kong?
Jennifer: Well most of the time, I just went jogging. It's not a very complicated sport. You don't have to use a lot of equipments or any facilities and basically it's just really relaxing and refreshing to be able to run for a few kilometers. I did that a lot after classes and on my way back to dorm. I would just run all the way.
Cindy: Wow you are super. I can't run for that long.
Jennifer: Emm. Well I admit that my endurance is pretty good. I also played badminton and my team and I practice volleyball every week.
Cindy: Wow Jennifer you're a born athlete!
Jennifer: Oh shucks! What I like most though is running, I get to choose according to my mood or my physical state. It's just a really. It's a sport with a lot of flexibility. It is well-known that running helps us to relax so my friends and I established a small group called “Running for Life”. You are welcome to join us.
Cindy: Wow! That is wonderful!
Let's exercise and keep mentally and physically healthy.